Friday, October 25, 2013

Conflict Resolution

As most of you know, I have been working at Duke for almost 4 months now.  And, as you also know, this has been very hard on my die-hard-Carolina-fan husband.

Below is an email exchange that I just had to "put out there" so that I would have future record of it.  Because this demonstrates what I now deal with on a daily basis.

I would give you some background information, but I don't think it's really necessary.  Other than to tell you that Dale is on a plane flying home from Arizona, which is why we were emailing (instead of talking) in the first place.  I fervently deny that we communicate mostly by email and text when he is traveling, as opposed to strategically planning out times of our days that we can have long, thoughtful phone conversations to catch up...

Anyway, enough lead-up.  Here you go.


From: Amy Herman
Sent: Friday, October 25, 2013 10:53 AM
To: Herman, Dale
Subject: Drury

Any interest in bringing the girls to the Duke/Drury BB game?  Do you remember Dad telling me about his friend whose son plays there, etc.?  It's 11/2 at 1p.  Or maybe I can just bring the girls and you can stay home with B.  Though I don't even know if you're here next Sat?  &*$% said it would be pretty easy to get tix if we want to come...   

(Note:  Name of ticket connection removed prior to publication to protect individual from unwanted ticket solicitations from those that read my blog that are Duke fans.  What?!?  There aren't any of you other than my cousin, Ted, who might read this only if his wife does and tells him that I mentioned him?!?)

On Fri, Oct 25, 2013 at 10:56 AM, Herman, Dale wrote:

Interesting question.    I will be here for sure.   We play State that day, and I am guessing it will be at 12:30 and I probably will want to watch, as you know.  I hate Duke BB, and really would not be very interested.   Immaturely, I would like to keep the girls away from Duke BB.   I would like to spend time with them in a sports atmosphere.  I want to make sure that we give them opportunities.   

 To put in communication terms that you would understand.  “#conflicted”   :-)


From: Amy Herman 
Sent: Friday, October 25, 2013 11:19 AM
To: Herman, Dale
Subject: Re: Drury

Okay.  Hmmmm.  

How about we go with this:
1)  You will stay home with B so that you can watch the FB game and he can nap.  #nobrainer  #DaddydoesnthavetopullforDuke
2)  We will ask the girls if they are interested in staying home to watch FB with Daddy on TV, or if they want to see what a Duke MBB game looks like.  #ignoringimmaturities  #givingchoices  #providingopportunities


On Fri, Oct 25, 2013 at 11:20 AM, Herman, Dale wrote:

I think this is the level-headed, responsible parenting decision.  Not the one I would have made, admittedly, but one that I support fully.  


Monday, October 21, 2013

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Facebook: September, 2013

September 1 at 7:29p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Thanks for being such troopers, Joanne and Rick! 

September 4 at 8:48a

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Macie's first day of Pre-K!! 

September 6 at 7:43a

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Dale is becoming increasingly intolerant of my casual Friday attire.  

September 7 at 1:54p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Birthday hair chalk, thanks to Miss Madison!  

September 7 at 5:41p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
At least he chose Mommy's favorite colors.  

September 8 at 4:59p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
If only this method worked without assistance.  

September 8 at 5:53p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
While the preferred flavor remains Nacho Cheese, Manwich over crunched Cool Ranch Doritos will suffice in a pinch.

September 10 at 8:43a

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
My "baby" girl is 5 today!! 

September 12 at 9:17a

Dale Herman
A very special "Happy Birthday" wish to my wonderful wife, best friend, and amazing mother to our children. I am so blessed to share this journey with you, and I hope you have the special day that you deserve so much! 

September 12 at 9:21a

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
I've only worked here for 2 months, but Cindy and Todd already know me so well...

September 13 at 12:39p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Hangin' with my sea lion friends this morning! #loveSanFran 

September 15 at 2:02p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
There are worse places to run.  

September 15 at 2:15p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
changed her cover photo

September 15 at 6:11p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
One of those rare photos of the two of us... Pigeon Point Light Station  

September 24 at 4:29p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Official tennis-ball-picker-upper at Iv's lesson.  

September 25 at 5:59p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
While driving through Chick-fil-A taking advantage of what she calls the "Momma Valet" (best program EVER), Ivie saw the high schooler at the register and said "I'm just gonna say this one time: That boy is cuuuuute!!!". (He DID have pretty blue eyes...) 

September 26 at 6:54p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Happy Johnny Appleseed Day!  

September 27 at 7:35p

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Game point nerves.  

September 29 at 8:24a

Amy Schaeperkoetter Herman
Calling all friends with random dress-up clothes lying around your house... Ivie has a Green Corn Festival on Friday. Does anyone have an Indian costume we could borrow?!?